“You need to speak, I’m trying to help you, the people that brought you have gone. “
(Now pointing at sleeping man) He said:
“I’m still looking for a way to take this man to the mortuary. “
Please, you have to understand how awkward it was for me. My head rang… ” Sorry, did I hear him just say mortuary!!! ” Ehn? The man is dead? I was in the same room with a dead man. I was in the same room with a dead body??? ” Sorry, but what???
I had been uncomfortable because of bleeding man when Sleeping man was actually a DEAD MAN!!!
See, that was it.
My hand went to my mouth and I looked at Ayo and said “Ayo….. Ayo..Oh my God, Oh my God. The man is dead. The man is dead and I was wondering why his feet were pale. I am going to the car. I can’t stay here. ”
This time around. Ayo listened. He nodded and went to tell the doctor that we would come back tommorow.
He had to listen though. It was not about me being stubborn. Ayo could not say “ Calm down, Dunmo. It’s just a dead man. ” and even if he did. I was not going to stay.
We left the hospital and went to the car, a nurse and family friend told me “bleeding man would most definitely need a blood transfusion “. The doctor came out, while we were in the car and I asked him how he was doing. He answered “Not fine. ”
We left a few minutes later.
P. S: The three men were all involved in an accident. One died (Sleeping man A. K. A DEAD MAN), One was seriously injured(BLEEDING MAN ) with no hope of getting immediate treatment , one was unscathed (OTHER MAN).
I was just a witness to this moment, I don’t have the full details, but please… I learnt some lessons in that moment that I want to share :
The first one is basic!!!
1) DON’T DRINK AND DRIVE!!!!!!
You endanger yourself and a host of other people when you do that. Please, please, Please. You do not want to be the DEAD MAN! BLEEDING MAN OR OTHER MAN! The other man was not drunk, so with God’s help he was able to escape. His response might not have been sharp if he was drunk. It is suicide.
2) BE GRATEFUL FOR LOVED ONES.
I don’t know what I would have done without my mum and Ayo, my neighbors who helped me into the car and my siblings at home.
3) BE THERE FOR LOVED ONES.
I can’t imagine where the dead man’s people were or bleeding man or other man. I know I had someone right beside me and that made me feel better.
4) ENJOY EACH MOMENT.
I saw the doctor in three different states. On Saturday, he was NOT FINE… but it was not an huge issue. On SUNDAY evening , HE WAS IN A GREAT MOOD, BY the Night of the same day. He was in SAD MOOD. I’m sure he would choose whatever he was on Saturday over dead patient.
I don’t know if they brought in dead man alive and they tried to save his life, what I know is. He lost a patient that day. So whenever something bad is going on.. Try to be as happy as possible in each moment.
At the end of the day, the dead man is not going home. We do not pray for evil, but call the ones you love more.
5) You are not always right:
I like to believe I am smart, but I was wrong. I was wrong about the reason DEAD MAN ‘S feet were pale and I was wrong when I said he needed a blood transfusion. I was wrong about the whole situation.
6) YOUR CASE IS NOT THE WORST:
In the moment, when the splitting headache began, I was in pain. I however know my pain was as bad as that of the bleeding man. I would never want to exchange the pain for the situation of DEAD MAN. I did not want to be OTHER MAN. The test results showed I did not have malaria neither was my pcv low… and who am I to complain. God has been faithful to me.
7)BE GRATEFUL TO GOD:
If you can read this, it means you are alive and you can see…. BE GRATEFUL.
NONE OF THE THREE MEN (DEAD, BLEEDING, OR OTHER MAN )HAD THE CAPACITY IN THAT MOMENT TO READ MUSINGS OF BIMIDIAH.
If you don’t drive drunk, someone on the road can be driving drunk, yet you are alive. I am not being over religious. I just believe it’s good to be thankful.
Have a great day ahead.
Pele* : A Yoruba word for sorry. (Used in part 1)
Bimidiah’s Word of The Week
GLABROUS : A word of British origin meaning smooth, bald or hairless.