LET’S  BE CANDID!  NO ONE IS PERFECT. 

THE WORLD LIKES PERFECT STORIES 

The most important lies are not the ones that are told with our mouths, they are the ones that are acted out with our lives. – KING JESUDUNMO LONGE.

“I woke up like this: flawless “-    

Taking the statement literally would/may mean something different from what the singer intended. But in this post, I want to focus on the harsh realities we have bedecked and decorated with lies. Nobody is flawless. Nobody is perfect. Only God is, but picture perfect is what the world craves. It seeks it to placate its ardent need for help by focusing on mundane (ordinary) and transient things. 

The world likes make up and not just the physical art but the emotional art that we have perfected. We like success stories and trample on “failures”.  We say it is okay to fail and we chant success quotes about failure and experience, but then we expect much. The world knows that everyone has flaws, but says “Do not let us see” because when we see that is all we would talk about.  We love the devils covered in white clothing we call angels and hate the devils we seem to know all about. Besides what you do not know would not kill you we say.  

IF YOU ARE PREGNANT, YOU ARE IN TROUBLE:

The craziest one to me is how the world praises the unpregnant bride ( who has serially aborted pregnancies, but keeps it under wraps so nobody knows). She gets to have a wonderful wedding without qualms, because what is paramount in some circles is that the bride must not pregnant before wedlock, so she easily gets commendation from people as a good “daughter”. We then criticize the one who seeks to come to the altar with a baby bump or who fails the pregnancy test and pretend like the crime is getting pregnant.

GETTING PREGNANT IS NOT NECCESARILY  the CRIME. IT IS BASIC BIOLOGY OCCURRING. THE CRIME IS THIS CASE WOULD BE FORNICATION AND JUST BECAUSE SOME PEOPLE HAVE THE EVIDENCE OF IT DOES NOT MEAN OTHERS ARE NOT INVOLVED.

 Don’t  get me wrong;  the circumstances may be highly inappropriate, but what you think in your head is not usually what happens. Yes, pregnancy out of wedlock says “premarital sex happened here” and that is not an exalted custom by biblical standards, but most times it is just time and chance. We see the truth and raise fire and brimstone, but we prefer to be lied to.

We label the parents of the unmarried lady who gets pregnant as failures and judge and mock them like they were the ones who pushed her to have sex or they did not monitor their daughter well. This is not always the case. (Let me not start on how the girl is the focus of the insult and name calling while the boy goes on with his life). Although this is sometimes true that the parents could have done a better job, but it is not always the case. It is immaterial to the world if she was raped or if it was a onetime thing.  No we do not care to know. We do not even believe if we are told. She does not fit the good girl image anymore and you cannot use her as an example for your children to follow. She is now the bad reference point because she or her parents made a decision to keep the pregnancy, (which to me is one of the most courageous decisions anyone can take in this life). But the girl who has aborted secretly or whose parents made her abort and continue with her education, you label a saint… I am not saying you should crucify her for aborting, but she did what the world wants and She packaged and lied and fit into the perfect daughter picture because that way she is still the girl that the world wants to believe she is. 

SUMMARY

I am saying that most times, people, situations, marriages, companies, products are not perfect not even when they look like it. 

No man is perfect. 

Your daughter, the good one who has no boyfriend and so your mind is calm may be a secret lesbian. Your perfect son or the one you compare your imperfect son to may be into drugs and be a pornography addict.  The perfect husband you always compare your husband to may be a murderer or a cheat.  That wonderful wife you keep comparing your wife to may be a husband’s hell at home. The people that win couple of the year may be dysfunctional, but the world celebrates SUCCESS not necessarily the TRUTH. It is fine to like good things. But the world does not like good things as much as feeds off failures of others, because nothing sells as much as a scandal does.

Before my point gets muddled up in this written rambling…. what I am trying to say is that:

 1)If we truly believe that no one is perfect, when we discover their flaws, we should not then dwell on them.

 I know that to whom much is given, much is expected and that it may be heart breaking to find out.  The shock of discovering  makes it hard to deal with. BUT the greater imperfections are the ones unseen and UNexpected. So let us learn  TO LOVE ALL OF EACH OTHER,  not just the truth. 

2) Do not haunt people with their weakness or remind them of their past… It’s  only because you know. Love them and stop comparing  them to others because the “people” you  compare them to have their flaws you do not know about. DON’T  COMPARE.

3)  A lot of people do not know the truth about the things going on around them because if their reaction and their inability  to shut up… YOUR reaction is the reason people are hiding a lot from you. Shut up AND PROCESS BEFORE YOU REACT. 

 

We would be less harmed,less surprised  and more forgiving if we would truly believe that IN GOD ALONE IS PERFECTION FOUND. 

THANK YOU. 

JESUDUNMO LONGE 

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